Feels like I keep on coming back to this, doesn’t it? Well, it’s been on my mind lately.
In my last post (the Take Back the Night one was Jessie B, and it was great, but I wasn’t there for that so I’m gonna focus on me.) I talked about what the different letters in LGBTQIA+ meant. And in my post before that I talked about how cool it was that a high school kid jumped to pansexual. So I guess in this one we’re gonna get to the root of the problem.
Remember that time I got a girl’s number? I made a tumblr post about it. That tumblr post has somehow gotten outrageously popular (111k notes at the time of this posting) and people have been commenting things. Mostly nice things. College Humor called me a liar. But some things have been… not intentionally hurtful. But, well.
I am not a lesbian.
It’s been really bothering me, seeing some of the tags on this post. Most of them are great and hilarious and amazing, but a lot of them just say ‘lesbian’ or ‘lesbian power’ and I know people are just tagging and trying to be empowering and that’s great!
But I’m not a lesbian.
I’m not offended to be called a lesbian, but calling me that erases a lot of who I am, and that’s someone who loves Darren Criss and Nick Jonas, someone who has embarrassed herself flirting with male customers at her job, and someone who literally cried when it was her boy crush’s last day at work (I still miss you Sean).
It also erases the part of me that’s really uncomfortable imagining myself as someone who has sex. Sex in the abstract doesn’t bother me but myself actually doing it freaks me the freak out so I’m more ace than anything really.*
So I’m a person who feels mushy romantic feelings over boys and girls and who doesn’t really feel like she wants to have sex with either of them. A person could still identify as a lesbian and feel these things but I don’t. Identify as a lesbian I mean.
So yeah, please stop erasing other queer identities like mine. If you call me anything, call me queer. I’ve got that on a t-shirt.
*I said I was demisexual/panromantic in this post and demisexuality is a facet of asexuality which you can google on your own. Kay, cool.
Welcome to our pet project. ‘Our’ being My, Jessie Maggio, and my cohort’s, Jessie Brokenshire. This is OUR way of getting our thoughts on paper.
Or on screen, as the case may be.
Here we strive to promote equality for all genders, races, sexual orientations, religious creeds, and everything else. If you’re living and breathing, we support you.
Just starting out, we’re probably just going to be screaming into the void. Social Justice rants, anecdotes, complaints, and general anger with some hard facts and sources to justify our rage.
There will probably be some good junk, like major victories or touchy-feely encounters we may have, but this is a place for us to keep all of our political/social arguments in one place.
We go to different schools so we won’t be together to post too often, so look out for our sign-offs to see who it was doing the typing. (JM or JB)
With the election coming up, we will have no shortage of content, but we probably won’t have a regular posting schedule. So just keep your head up and enjoy the ride!
-JM (with JB sitting literally right next to me)
Yes, I am always wearing those sunglasses.
So hi! Jessie Maggio. I’m the JM on this little adventure.
I’m a graduating senior from Penn State University (counting down the days, y’all) with a major in English. I couldn’t decide what to minor in. I’m the English Department’s first ever Social Media intern and I have a short story in my school’s student literary magazine so blog posting is nothing new to me. This collaboration with Jessie was her brain child and I’m just here to lend verbiage and fire to her flame of passion.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m just as into all this crap as she is, but she’s an academic. I’m just an amateur.
I’m a part time barista at Starbucks so I’m very familiar with spilling tea (bad dum tss) so please forgive me if I come off as harsh and crude. Still getting a grasp on nuance when it comes to social justice.
Until I post again!
This is a picture of me, so you have a face for the name. I’ll be posting under the sign-off JB.
I’m a third year student at Kutztown University; I am a social work major with one minor in psychology and a second minor in women and gender studies. I volunteer at a domestic violence shelter in Reading, PA, and I present seminars on healthy relationships and sexual violence in classrooms at my school.
I have a wide variety of interests when it comes to social justice, as you’ll see, and I am a very passionate person. Jessie Maggio and I have been best friends since age four, so it’s only fitting that we share a blog. We have both been wondering about good ways to get more immersed in advocating for social justice, and we decided that blogging would be a great way to get our feet wet.
Since this is the first time that either of us have run a public blog, give us a little time to get the hang of things, please! We appreciate the opportunity to get our point across on such a platform and hope that our readers enjoy!